If my readers have one once of similarity with me, they’ll connect with this quote: “I told you that,” when thinking about how the latest argument started with your spouse. Yes, I know the rule: it’s not always what we said, but how we said it, yet I have learned to go one step further. I try to think about what it was that was actually heard. Did my words imply one thing, then were interpreted differently? Did I take the time to ask for confirmation? When reading Rocks Through My Window, my readers connect with “norms” of communication strains when couples are hurriedly living their lives and raising teenages at the same time.